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“Every positive thing you do in your relationship is foreplay”
You haven’t had sex in months, or maybe even years.
The passion is gone.
One of you is more interested in sex than the other, and it’s starting to become a problem.
It has become impossible to talk about what you need and want in bed.
Experiencing a lack of intimacy in your relationship is a signal that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. Intimacy issues can be caused by many different things. For example, you may be struggling to connect and communicate with your partner and don't feel like being intimate. This can be especially challenging if there are trust issues in your relationship. Or, you may be having trouble connecting to your own sense of sensuality. Maybe you have a history of sexual trauma or reproductive trauma, or you are living with chronic pain and that makes a sexual relationship difficult.
It can seem like the sexual relationship you once had or wanted will never happen again. You might think this is just a normal part of life now. Something everyone goes through. Your “season” is over, and you don’t have realistic options. It’s possible you’ve found yourself considering things that you never imagined doing because you feel so lonely in your relationship right now. Do any of these sound familiar?
When couples don’t have sex, they may start a cycle of recrimination and hurt feelings that, in turn, turns them off from sex. That only fuels more resentment and hurt. This logjam can be difficult to break without the help of a trained sex therapist.
If you don’t talk about sex, have sex, or you feel your sexual needs are not fully appreciated in your relationship, you could benefit from sex therapy. Don’t wait too long to start these conversations. They can improve your relationship! A well-trained couples counselor can also prescribe touch exercises to get the ball rolling again.
Common Reasons to Come to Counseling for Intimacy Issues or Sex Therapy
Lack of sex in your life
Avoiding sex altogether
Can’t talk about sex with anyone
Feeling awkward or embarrassed about what you want
No longer feeling “sexy” or romantic
Lack of passion for your partner
A low desire for sex in general
Sexual desire discrepancy
History of sexual violence or reproductive trauma
Infidelity or broken trust
The Good News: There is hope for your relationship!
Intimacy issues seem impossible to work through. You are craving closeness with your partner and you want to have a sexual relationship with them. You know sex and intimacy in your relationship is something worth fighting for. I will work with you to help you regain intimacy in your relationship again. We’ll want to know what your goals are and what might be getting in the way. You are not broken. You can have a healthy, happy sex life again.
Enliven Therapy’s Approach to Sex Therapy in North Carolina
Whether you work with me in person, in the Charlotte area, or via video teletherapy, I can help. I will work to help you figure out what is causing the lack of intimacy in your relationship. Even if there might be multiple issues keeping you from having the sex life you want. Then, we will make a relationship plan to help you have the relationship you both want.
You can attend alone or with your partner
After the early stage of a relationship wanes, sexual encounters are not automatic. Don’t ignore sexual discrepancies or sexual frustrations. If your partner does not agree to get help with sex therapy sessions at this time, it may not mean that they’re not interested in improving your relationship. You can attend alone or with your partner.
As a Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy trained sex therapist, I take an educational, experiential, and integrative approach to sex therapy. This means that I provide you with information about intimacy and connection. Then I will give you "homework" exercises. Some of these strategies might include communication tips, opportunities to connect with your partner, and rebuilding trust or repairing anything else that is hurting your sex life. Overall, I provide a sex-positive, non-shaming space for you to explore intimacy issues. Please note: sex therapy never involves sex or touching with a therapist or in the presence of a therapist. We want you to be comfortable discussing these issues with us. There is no physical component to therapy in our clinic.
Sex Therapy and Counseling for Intimacy Issues Works!
After working through these issues in sex therapy, you will feel more comfortable talking about and initiating sex. You can have connection, excitement, and a renewed sex life after sex therapy! You will feel a sense of connection and friendship with each other again! What's holding you back from having a sexual relationship with your partner?
Online Sex Therapy in the State of North Carolina
I understand that it can be hard to come to the office for therapy with your partner. Maybe you’re having trouble coordinating schedules or are concerned about your privacy. But, I want all couples to have access to sex therapy if they desire it. Therefore, I offer online sex therapy to couples in the state of North Carolina. As long as both you and your partner are both physically located in the state, then we can have an online session wherever you feel comfortable at a time that works for both your schedules.